advice for young Christians on marriage

Brief, but excellent thoughts on the topic of marriage…

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Many young Christians have the idealistic expectation of enjoying sex in one exclusive marriage of a lifetime. They hope that their god will provide the perfect spouse for their mutual sexual enjoyment. I’m concerned for a number of reasons.

1. You don’t get to live with this individual before you commit to sharing your whole life with them. Some people, even best friends, seem perfectly fine until you move in with them. You’re likely to be having kids with someone before you can even assess if you are compatible housemates.

2. You don’t get to find out if your sexual desire and emotional connection will endure beyond the initial two or three year sexual honeymoon period. Once the initial buzz of having sex for the first few years has worn off, you leave yourself open to the realisation that there’s no long-term sexual chemistry. And you’re not allowed to change your mind!

3. You are likely…

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“The Hitch”, a wonderful new film about Hitchens: and it’s free!

Why Evolution Is True

Matthew Cobb called my attention to a tw**t by Richard Dawkins:

And, sure enough, there’s a one hour and 22 minute documentary about Hitchens that I’d somehow missed. Perhaps readers have seen it before, as it’s been posted for 11 months. I’ve now watched it, and it is indeed very good. Take some time, put it on full screen, and, if you will, pour a glass of Mr. Walker’s amber restorative.

Although it starts slow, it picks up quickly, and parts of it are ineffably moving, like Hitchens’s remembrances of his mother. Most readers will take issue with his position on the Iraq war, but listen to him nevertheless. You don’t want to listen only to people with whom you agree, do you? Part Five, on free speech, is particularly stirring, and segues into the segment on religion.  You will, if you’re sentient, be in tears for the last ten minutes.

Here it…

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